Why did I choose this tool? I chose this tool as a way to expand the understanding on how important it is to be genuine with the group and not take the educational process as a theatre play of fake cheerfulness and fun games. I believe that the core of non-formal education comes from the relationship and interaction between the educators and the learners, therefore I chose a tool that gives insights into this phenomena.
How does this apply to being a trainer? it is important for the educator to be able to communicate the truth to the learners and also maintain a safe emotional environment. The non-violent communication approach proposes a way to do it, and might be useful to be introduced in our daily and professional lives.
Start with watching a TED talk on the power of truth:
Reflect and answer the following questions:
- What do you usually share with the group?
- Think of a situation when you were asked to share something and you refused to? What were the reasons behind it?
- What do you struggle to share?
- What do you think is not appropriate to share with a group of learners?
Now that we agree (do we?) that the truth is an important factor in working with people especially if we want to encourage their personal and professional growth, I’d like to offer you to watch a TED talk on vulnerable honesty as speaking the truth can be hard especially if you don’t practice if too often as it happens in many cultures. The TED talk on vulnerable honesty
connects us with the theory of non-violent communication as a way and a strategy to say the truth and create an open and safe learning environment.
Hearing how important something is, is not nearly enough to actually learn how to do it, Marshal B. Rossenberg proposes a few steps on how to go through the non-violent communication: https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/pdf_files/4part_nvc_process.pdf
Try it out with a friend, family member or a colleague and later, reflect on how it went. What would you do the same and what would you do differently? What works for you? Then, try again.
- Where is the line between over-sharing and not sharing enough?
- How do you balance personal and professional relationships with the learners?
- What else could be helpful besides a non-violent communication approach in order to communicate effectively with the group?
- What is questionable about the non-violent communication theory? What are the situations in which it might not be educational?
How to apply it in everyday life:
No better way to learn it, but to try it. Every single day. Take courage and communicate the truth. Use the techniques if needed.